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Shall I pay you in dessert or do you need someone ‘taken care of’?
was it the running? cuz running is a bad idea. especially in dc in the summer.
Indeed it was running. But it wasn’t too hot, amazingly enough. It was the being out of shape part that was a pretty big problem.
I’m so interested in this process. Boarding school seems so arcane in the US but I know many people on the east coast still go (obvs) and it’s something my mom did. She went to a boarding school in Jamaica when she was 8 years old!
When I say we’re sending Sylvia to a boarding school, I think people imagine a very stereotypical vision of “Boarding School,” with uniforms and ties and ACADEMIC PURSUITS. Where she is actually going is so…not that.
Just for a couple examples, the kids get OUT OF CLASS to do certain chores on a rotating basis (with the expectation that they are responsible for finding out what they missed). The school does not employee any janitorial staff. When the school day ends all of the students stay for an additional 30 minutes to clean (and let me tell you, the place is beautiful). We send a set amount as an allowance (so the amount is the same for every child), which the school hands out once a month and the kids are expected to budget that money. If they run out, they do not get more, nor or we to ‘rescue’ them by sending more. (this is excluding large purchases they may need that she would negotiate with us and use her debit card to buy with an adult).
One of the biggest differences is probably the focus on “the microeconomy,” which I don’t have a good elevator speech for, but is described in the handbook as,
In addition to the work necessary for the community to function, students participate in real economic activity as an introduction to economic life. This work serves as a first step towards economic independence as well as allowing them to measure the worth of their activity against an external standard. Montessori termed this developing sense of self-worth “valorization.”
It’s not that academics are not important, it is just that they aren’t valued over other aspects of adolescent development.
I sometimes worry that I’m building it up and will be crushed if Sylvia doesn’t like it. And that is probably true, but all signs point to it being the right place for Sylvia at the right time.