OH MAN I JUST HAD A THOUGHT. This whole season has been about putting Dean and Cas on an equal level. If you look at seasons 4-6, their problems mainly came about because they idealized each other, and when they didn’t live up to the idealized standards, their relationship suffered.
And being different species has been one of the biggest hurdles in seeing them as equals: Cas is more magically/physically powerful (being an angel), but in the TFW dynamic, Dean had more power as the keeper of social/human knowledge. And even when Cas became a human (or a hunter in 8x08), he floundered for a bit, having no power in this new situation.
BUT even from episode one of s9, Cas and Dean have been on parallel journeys that (I really hope) end with them on equal footing.
Castiel has been trying to figure out what he wants out of his existence, making the most out of the volatile situation and his changing species twice this season. As we see in 9x10 and 9x11, his time as a human, and subsequent re-angelification has made him understand humans, and more-importantly human emotion, better. He’s starting to get the physical language of humanity, with touches and hugs and sex. And with this episode, he now shares a common storytelling history with humanity.
Dean has also been moving toward seeing Cas as a person with feelings, rather than a blunt instrument (sidenote: this progression has been slowly happening in starts and fits since 7x17, but it’s been kicked into overdrive this season).
The times we’ve seen them together haven’t been them fighting monsters together (except 9x06). They are not using each other for whatever gifts they have defeating things (Castiel is very decidedly NOT Dean’s weapon this season), but instead when they are together on screen, or talking to each other on the phone, they have been shown to be each other’s friends first, allies second. In 9x01, 9x09, 9x10, and tonight, they provide emotional support (“How are you?” is asked IIRC in each of these episodes) and show that they really care about how the other is doing, and not just in the fight against evil. Cas cares about Dean’s state of mind and Dean cares about how Cas feels about being a human or angel again.
So as of this episode, Cas (more or less) gets Dean’s pop-culture references, one of the defining characteristics of Dean’s personality since s1. Now, Dean cares about Cas’ feelings and choices, letting Cas make his own decisions. 9x03 and 9x06 show us that they want to be together in some way or another, and I’m looking forward to them getting together on equal footing, making fully informed decisions to stay with each other without undue burdens of responsibility toward family weighing them down.
"keep an eye on him. keep two eyes on him. send me photos with your camera phone. i know how those work now. i will expect hourly updates sam make sure he eats enough vegetables you know how he is. make sure he has enough blankets."
Sylvia has a presentation tomorrow. We call them the 6th Year Exhibitions, because each graduate spends several months researching a topic and then presenting it to the whole school. They present, then the children ask questions, then the staff ask “deepening” questions.
It’s actually quite fun to watch. They keep their topic secret from their peers, so it is always a bit of a ‘reveal.’
Sylvia has done a great job preparing. She chose glass art (of course) and knows the topic in and out. She’s presented for us a couple of times to practice and she and the other graduates have practiced in front of each other.
The teacher working with her said she did a great job, and, frankly, I’m not surprised because it was great when she presented to us. Sylvia may struggle with some things academically, but speaking about a topic she is well acquainted with is not one of them. She is a very good public speaker.
BUT, as is her usual, she had a melt down this morning worrying about it. She said she had nightmares about it and she’s afraid to mess up. She asked me if kids have messed up in the past (keep in mind she’s watched them for the last 6 years).
I didn’t know how to comfort her. I told her it was like the musical, kids sometimes forgot or stumbled over things, but it was always great. I told her I was torn between telling her not to worry, because she was going to do fantastic and telling her it would be ok if she made a mistake. She seems especially worried because her presentation is on my birthday. I told her if she got up there and didn’t say a word it still wouldn’t affect my birthday.
It’s just so hard to see her struggle, especially, in all of my past experience, she will get up there and not just be fine, but truly shine. I am hopeful this counted as the meltdown and that means tomorrow morning will be fine (i hope i hope i hope).
I will be in your fair city on Mother’s Day weekend (May 9th-May 12th) visiting this nerd I kind of like, you might know her, she’s obsessed with this Supernatural show? If y’all will be around, we need to plan a nerd gathering of some sort.
(AHHHHH I’M SO EXCITED.)
THERESA IS COMING TO VISIT ME ON MOTHER’S DAY BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY I AM HER MOTHER!
those notifications piss me off every time I get one. like, nicky, i love you, but I could not care any less who you follow if my life depended on not caring who you follow….WHHHY does twitter feel the need to tell me.
Someday, when the only way I can save your life is by telling you who I just followed on twitter, you are going to regret this statement.
I accidentally followed Robert Downey, Jr. on twitter last night. I got one of those new notifications from twitter, where it says “so and so, so and so and so and so started following RDJ on twitter.” So, I thought, oh, he must have just gotten a twitter. I clicked over out of curiosity.
Now, don’t get me wrong…I LOVE RDJ. I would happily make him cookies and tuck him in bed, and, you know, do totally dirty stuff to his body, but, just…do I need to follow him on twitter? I mean, he’s a clever guy, and pretty funny, so maybe his twitter will be gold, but if it is I’ll hear about it and I can always follow him later. In general, Supernatural obsession not withstanding, I don’t follow celebrities, because it can be interesting, but a little boring. In fact, I recently went through and unfollowed most of the celebrities I had followed on a whim.
BUT twitter has done something weird to the mobile app, where it is TOO FREAKING EASY to follow someone. So with one random attempt to scroll I had followed him.
I’m not going to lie, I spent 30 seconds contemplating not unfollowing because it seemed rude before I realized he had been on twitter for like an hour and had 76K followers, so there is no way in the world for him to notice anyone unfollowing him, don’t be an idiot, Nicky.
Anyway, let me know if it turns out he has a really killer twitter.
Ok. This is the last I’ll say about it (probably).
I really don’t think Adam Glass owes ‘fans’ a twitter presence. He doesn’t owe us anything really. He is doing what he gets paid to do, and by his own account enjoys.
That said, he chose to play in this sandbox. And he’s gotten lots of positive feedback. And he’s gotten lots of calm, but direct feedback about things that bother people. And he’s gotten some weird ass hate. I mean, I don’t know for sure, but I’d guess that is pretty typical for anyone with a large twitter following who creates something people consume.
If that’s not cool with him, more power to him. He should not keep up with something that makes his life unpleasant, but storming off in a huff, leaving the impression that fans have driven him away is just…unprofessional, and frankly disrespectful.
maybe it’s because i have such a giant boner for stuff like institutional competency and organizational problem solving, but even if this is about one dude being dumb please keep ranting about effective leadership styles it’s gold
I’m glad I’m at least not annoying everyone who follows me right now.
It’s just…so much of the last 8 years of my life have been a trial by fire in learning to be a good leader.
And that’s essentially the position he’s in. He has the knowledge/power/expertise in this dynamic. And while it is being a good leader to be open and engaged, it is also important to have a clarity of purpose and to trust your vision. It is just BASIC that you cannot engage the haters at their level. You give them SO MUCH underserved power and they RUIN EVERYTHING. That is part of your job. Sifting through what feedback is valuable even if it doesn’t change anything, what feedback should be considered, and MOST IMPORTANTLY what feedback is just not worth your energy, where the most you should say is, “I’m sorry you don’t like what I’m selling. Good luck elsewhere.”